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Attachment in practice – Secure attachment behaviour

In this narrated clip we begin to explore the importance of secure attachment relationships. We observe Leila at home with Mum and Dad and on a day out, at a soft play, with Mum.

Good for looking at:

  • Secure attachment relationships
  • The hierarchy of attachment figures
  • How secure attachments have a positive impact on development and behaviour
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Here's a real life reunion.
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Lila's also now attached to her dad,
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and he's come to Granny's house to collect her.
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Dada!
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This reunion behavior clearly shows the
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quality of the secure attachments to him.
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Look, look!
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Dada.
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Look.
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Dada.
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Daddy.
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Oh yeah.
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Hurray!
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Lila.
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Dada.
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Lila.
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Jamie.
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Jamie.
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Jamie.
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There came a big spider,
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who sat down beside her...
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So Lila now has several attachment figures.
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Jess, Dad, Granny, and a child-minder.
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But, there is a hierarchy.
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And if Jess is available, she's Lila's first choice
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at times of distress.
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Lila's now in a larger, strange environment.
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Her attachment figure has to strike a balance
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between being on hand when needed and allowing her
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the freedom to explore.
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As Jess moves away, Lila behaves as if she was attached
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by a piece of elastic.
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She keeps herself at what she feels to be a safe distance.
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Lila feels confident in her play and exploration
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knowing that she has a reliable base.
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Boo!
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The distance that feels safe will depend
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on circumstances and it will increase with age.
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Some insecurely attached children won't behave like this.
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They won't feel confident to explore freely and happily.
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Bowlby believed that the type of attachment formed in
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the early years can greatly effect emotional stability
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later on and research supports this.
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And her happiness and the ability to cope with life's
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difficulties, develop largely from an early secure
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attachment experience.