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Life at two – A feeling of belonging at nursery

30 months – Becoming part of the group.

Contents of section

  • Arrival - confident being left
  • Curious about environment
  • Consolidated relationship with key person
  • Elfer - importance of physical contact
  • Intimacy - expressing thoughts and feelings
  • Meal times - socialising
 

Reflect

  • How does Claire encourage Ava’s signs of interest in the catkins?
  • What does Claire do when Ava grabs her legs during the walk?
  • How does Claire do while she’s changing Ava’s nappy?
  • What does Ava tell Claire when she is on the toilet?
  • How can you tell that Ava’s made a good attachment relationship with Claire?
  • Why is physical contact important and how should it be dealt with?
  • What does Claire tell mum about the trip out?
  • What can you say about the relationship between Ava, Claire and mum?
00:06
Eva!
00:07
Yay, it's Eva.
00:11
Where can she sit?
00:15
Is there a space for her, space?
00:19
This time, coming to nursery Eva
00:21
is confident about being left without Molly.
00:29
I know.
00:32
Are you gonna go and sit down with everyone?
00:36
I'm just here.
00:37
Yeah?
00:41
Okay, and a good hug
00:43
Give me a kiss.
00:44
Yes.
00:47
Are you gonna have a lovely day?
00:48
Now you need to go.
00:49
Okay.
00:53
Are you gonna go and sit down with everyone?
00:55
Yeah.
00:56
See you later, have a good day.
00:58
See you later.
00:59
Hello.
01:02
Bye, see you later!
01:05
Today they're going to explore the countryside,
01:07
even though it's cold and wet.
01:18
It might be about 10 years old this tree, all right?
01:21
So every ring, that means one year's growth.
01:27
So it's about, you think it's about 10 years old?
01:30
Eva's curious about
01:31
the environment and things in it.
01:37
What can you see?
01:39
Can you see the little tails, look?
01:47
That's funny.
01:51
Oh, Jack, I nearly fell on my bum.
01:54
C'mon then.
01:54
I'm gonna do it.
01:55
You go through that one
01:56
and I'll go through this big one.
01:59
Oh, slip that up a bit.
02:02
We can see how attached she is to Claire,
02:04
and how Claire returns the affection.
02:09
Oh dear, go steady here.
02:14
Oh, who's that bumping me?
02:19
It's this relationship with Claire
02:21
that seems to have enabled Eva to settle so happily
02:23
into the nursery setting.
02:25
She's got my legs!
02:27
No, Amy!
02:28
Whoops, all right, just playing isn't she.
02:29
I'm a monster.
02:30
She's a monster,
02:31
she's pretending to be a monster.
02:33
Physical contact with children is so important,
02:36
and yet it needs to be managed very carefully in a nursery.
02:39
Nurseries are now very rightly very conscious
02:42
of child protection issues
02:44
and of insuring that any physical contact with children
02:47
is done in a way that's appropriate
02:49
and sensitive and thoughtful,
02:52
and in line with what the child wants.
02:54
But we also know that physical contact
02:56
is absolutely crucial to children's sense
02:59
of themselves and to their wellbeing,
03:02
and physical holding, cuddling and handling and carrying
03:06
are all very important parts
03:08
of looking after children well and of supporting children's
03:11
emotional wellbeing and self-esteem.
03:15
I don't know
03:17
Where's your toes?
03:18
There.
03:19
Claire still sees to Eva's care routines.
03:22
And the other one.
03:22
It's usually a good time to chat.
03:23
There is it!
03:24
Where?
03:25
Where can it be?
03:34
This one!
03:36
That one!
03:39
This one!
03:40
C'mon then.
03:42
You ready?
03:43
Ooh!
03:45
You're stuck!
03:48
Ooh, you're stuck!
03:51
Dunk.
03:53
What shall we do?
03:54
Lift your bum.
03:56
Yeah.
03:57
Pull me up.
03:58
And now I'll pull you up, you ready?
04:00
I think you need to wipe your nose.
04:03
It's a bit runny.
04:05
Can Claire get a wipe to wipe your nose?
04:09
Oh, you don't like that do you?
04:12
Would Eva like to do it?
04:13
Yes!
04:14
You wipe your nose then.
04:15
Thank you.
04:18
No.
04:19
Trousers?
04:20
I've got you
04:21
You've got me and I've got you.
04:23
Whoop!
04:25
I got you.
04:27
Mum's my friend.
04:29
You Mum's your friend?
04:30
She is, and you're your Mum's friend.
04:34
I'm Molly's friend.
04:35
You're Molly's friend.
04:36
Claire allows Eva
04:37
to express a wide range of feelings.
04:39
Do you wanna go wash your hands then?
04:40
And encourages cuddling when Eva instigates it.
04:42
No, no, no!
04:44
Eva now seems to trust Claire completely.
04:46
And is confident enough
04:48
to express her thoughts and feelings.
04:51
No, let me.
04:54
Push.
04:55
I did push!
04:56
There.
05:01
Poor bunny.
05:04
Meal times are good for socializing.
05:06
I get!
05:09
Which bit will you eat next?
05:13
What one's that?
05:14
Snake!
05:15
His head?
05:16
No, this is the tiger
05:18
and this the lion.
05:20
What about his toes?
05:22
Would you eat his toes?
05:33
I'm playing with the farm.
05:34
Are you?
05:36
Yes.
05:36
Yeah, c'mon.
05:40
Horses and house.
05:43
And cows as well?
05:45
Oh there's lots on this farm, isn't there?
05:48
Yeah.
05:50
Has Claire caught you?
05:51
Oh yeah.
05:53
Goodness me.
05:54
We went through rivers
05:55
and up hills today, didn't we?
05:56
And up big steps.
05:58
Did they all really enjoy it?
05:58
Oh they had a great time.
05:59
Yeah, aww.
06:04
A great time.
06:07
Aww.
06:09
Is it time to go?
06:10
What, darling?
06:11
We lost Claire.
06:15
You lost Claire, did you?
06:18
Yeah, then we go out.
06:19
Did you go out?
06:20
Yeah.
06:21
We had a long then we pludged

This section shows how at ease Ava now seems in the nursery. She is confident to explore the environment and is really having fun. She feels secure with Claire, her key person, and can talk about her feelings; the key relationship is blooming. Claire knows what Ava likes and dislikes and is respectful towards her. Ava knows its okay to show affection towards Claire even when mum is there. The relationship between all three is open and communicative. If the parent is neglected this could cause problems with the key person approach leading perhaps to anxieties and jealousies between the parent and key person. The importance of this triangular relationship was first emphasised by Elinor Goldshmied 3.

fig. 1

The ‘mother’, baby and key person create and maintain a triangle of trust and communication between each other.

3 Goldschmied E. and Selleck D. 1996. Communication between babies in their first year. National Children’s Bureau. (A training booklet and video)

fig. 1, Idem