Personal, social & emotional development

Here we see three year old, Seb, playing at home and at his nursery, with friends and adults. We look at how, through his play experiences, he is developing personally, socially and emotionally.

This is a crucial area. A child’s early attachment and relationship experiences are vital for their physical and emotional well-being, building their brains and allowing them to develop the skills to regulate and control their emotions and actions. A child who knows they are loved and valued feels safe enough to take risks – to branch out and explore the world, knowing that they have a secure base of relationships to return to. They are also building emotional resilience, helping them to cope with future setbacks and disappointments, because they have a strong sense of identity and self worth. Seb shows us his determination to master new tasks but he is also able to ask for and accept help when he needs it.

When our own emotional resilience is strong, we are better able to negotiate and compromise and to empathise with others. We are less likely to feel the need to behave in bullying ways or to allow ourselves to be bullied or victimised. We see Seb negotiating and compromising with his playmates, asserting himself when necessary but also knowing when to step back and avoid confrontation. He also shows interest in the well-being of others and is able to take steps to help someone else. The ability to empathise, to see things from another’s point of view, to recognise one’s own needs and those of others is essential if children are to grow up being able to recognise and challenge inequality and bias, on behalf of themselves and others.

A sense of well –being is also essential for learning- it is really difficult to take on new information when we are stressed. We see Seb exploring the world, building his skills and learning new things confidently in the relaxed environment of his home and in the comfortable, nurturing environment of his playgroup, with adults he knows and who know him well enough to respond sensitively to his needs. He can even handle ‘scary’ ideas and notions in his play scenarios with his mum, allowing him to explore difficult subjects and potential threat in ways that are safe and ultimately re- assuring.

In environments that support rich play experiences, children are able to follow their own interests and motivations to a personal conclusion and at a level appropriate to their stage of development, regardless of their age. This in turn encourages the development of positive learning dispositions such as curiosity, reflection, perseverance and responsibility – so important for learning throughout life.

After watching the video clip what do think about the following questions:

  • What do you know about attachment and how it develops?
  • What evidence is there in the film to suggest Seb is securely attached to his mum?
  • What might get in the way of attachment between a child and their parent/s
  • How do you think early years practitioners can support a child’s primary attachments?
  • Why is it important for Seb to have other children to play with?
  • How does he encourage other people to play with him?
  • How would you support the personal and social development of Erin (check )who tries to dominate Seb’s play?
  • What is the difference between being assertive and being bossy?
  • All behaviour is communication. What do you do in response to challenging behaviour that shows you recognise a child’s attempts to communicate their lack of emotional well-being?
  • In what ways can you plan to support children’s development of positive dispositions for learning and the characteristcs of effective learning?
  • Attachment films by Siren films + notes
  • From Birth to One – The year of opportunity by Maria Robinson (Open University Press)
  • Why Love Matters – How affection shapes a baby’s brain by Sue Gerhardt (Brunner-Routledge)
  • Assessment in Early Childhood Settings by Margaret Carr (Paul Chapman, Pounds 16.99)
  • Young Children’s Personal Social and Emotional Development by Marion Dowling, Paul Chapman Publishing 2000